dear rosie. { noctium }

[hasitsthorns]

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[calamitysymphony]

Dear Rosie,

I arrived in Noctium with my lover. We are used to this sort of nonsense where physical lust and sexual contact happens seemingly at random, and we both understand that. I know they are otherwise faithful to me, and the last thing I want is to judge them and feel jealous about other relations they have-- but I also find myself wanting to brutally dismember anyone who even looks at them.

I want to be supportive and secure in our relationship. How do I healthily work through possessive jealousy in a place where monogamy is impossible?

Signed,

Envy Is a Sin

[hasitsthorns]

Dear Envy,

Firstly, I just want to say for the record: That's hot.

Secondly, that is a tricky situation you've found yourself in! While you mention that monogamy is impossible, are boundaries? Perhaps you could set specific limits to what is and isn't allowed with other people. For example, they can have sex with whoever but they aren't allowed to call them terms of endearment reserved for you, do that thing to them that's your favorite, or spend time with them more than a certain established timeframe.

Seeing reasonable boundaries and consistent communication is key to healthy polyamory!

-Rosie